Showing posts with label family life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family life. Show all posts

Saturday, April 16, 2022

"Mommy, Daddy. Please, talk to me about love." Parents' affective and sexual formation of their children.

In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity, as reported in Jeremiah 31:31-34, every human being can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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“Mommy, Daddy. Please, talk to me about love.”

 


Notes from a conference in French “S’il-vous-plaît, parlez-moi d’amour”given at the Diocese’s offices March 29th, 2017 by Inès Pélissié du Rausas, a mother who has
written books on how parents can form their children well at the various stages of their development in ways appropriate to each age to understand and live well their human sexuality. 

 


Inès advocates precocious but progressive education of children with tenderness by their parents in contrast to the intrusion of culture and society which, truthfully, is erroneous, violent, and damaging, all too often ruining or at the very least hurting our children’s innocence and ability to appreciate all the beauty, truth, and goodness of the gift of life entrusted to them by God and their own great dignity and that of others.

As lionesses are so ferocious in defending their young; so too should we be as parents to defend and form our children regarding their vocation, their calling to eternal life, which is at stake, and the spiritual strength God offers us within Marriage and family life. While we value traditional marriage, children are born who receive life and love in non-traditional families or households. We probably all know some near or far, and we love them with all our hearts.

Let us think of our own children, of the children of others, of the poor, and of those who at first view may be thought of as on the margins of society. As we put the well-being of our children first, we need to rediscover or to acquire for the first time our backbone and stand up for our children, for our family, for Marriage, for others, for the poor, for the Church, for humanity, and for God.

With the Holy Spirit we have at hand an infinite variety of new solutions to age old problems created when people – motivated by so many hidden goals driving them – tamper with our children and seek to “play around” with their innocent, vulnerable, and trusting hearts. No one must play around with our children’s hearts!

 

PRESSURES AND LOBBIES

 

There are 3 lobbies and “outside interests” putting considerable pressure everywhere and all the time on our children, and particularly on what the marketing strategists call “pre-adolescents”. In reality, there is no such thing as a pre-adolescent unless it is in the interest of someone to target children in the “latency stage” in view of influencing them in advance of becoming adolescents. 

The latency stage is what children live from the age of 6 until puberty, when in principle all sexual things don’t interest them or are even repugnant to them. In other words, there are interests out there addressing our children in the latency stage as though they were already adolescents, or potential adolescents, or children wanting to become adolescents. These interests threaten to interrupt the safety of the latency stage as they prematurely stimulate the imagination of children and, in so doing, damage their innocence.

Tactic # 1.                  Under the pretext of taking the defense of freedoms / liberties and equality, such as, for example, the fight against AIDS, all manner of misinformation and outright lies are propagated, always with the overhanging threat of severe reprisals upon anyone who might dare to oppose this tactic in real life and time.

Tactic # 2.                  Consider all the frantic activity around pornography – such as with the considerable pressure on parents to provide their young children with an I-Pad, or I-Phone, or Laptop, or their equivalent – to sever the safety ties of young children to their parents and make them free to “roam” and be led astray by any number of “wolves” in sheep’s clothing presented to them in any number of creative and cleverly disguised ways. Threats approach our children everywhere they go: outside the house in their own neighborhood, at school, in the marketplaces, at home, and through technology even in their own private places. Even their relatives and friends who are not vigilant may be used as instruments to seduce our children's imaginations. 

All pornographic voices and images and words speak of prostitution – none of them speak of love, not of true love, nor of divine love – but always of pleasure, greed, power, and domination. Solicitation to draw children into various forms of prostitution of their bodies as pleasure objects and to treat others not as persons but as pleasure objects often takes violent forms but is always aggressive with dangerous consequences.

The person of the child is hurt, damaged, within their very self, but they also become dangerous for others by being conditioned to believe that they are incapable of mastering or restraining their own impulses.

SOLUTION                   We must do all we can to protect our children against these attacks and form them to learn to avoid such animal and predatory behaviors as are portrayed and promoted by pornography in all its forms. What is hopeful is that with children we can always repair any damage, and they can always learn and grow. With a child we can always love and begin afresh.

Tactic # 3.                  We have all become painfully aware of and familiar with the latest new ideology which aggressively seeks to impose on young and vulnerable children and adolescents and even young adults a burden to select their own gender, as if our gender were an “à la carte” activity for human beings. Gender ideology negates human sex and gender by replacing male and female with homosexual and heterosexual, M & F with H & H. This new ideology seeks to replace the individuality and complementarity of our human nature as designed by God with pleonasm – that is, with what is the same as, with redundancy – favoring what is the same as me, rejecting what is different from me. It is the destruction of the richness of complementarity for the sake of the identical.

SOLUTION        We must avoid using any other terms than those given to us by God – male and female – and simply say that I am woman, or I am man, girl or boy. 
        The term “heterosexual” was coined by a German who wanted to promote homosexual activity in the 18th/19th century. He used from the Greek “heteros” which means different and “sexue” or in Latin “sexus” which means separate or different. In other words, the term is redundant, saying the same thing twice.
        It’s a clever trick to annihilate the final purpose of our human sexuality – which is life and union for life and stability in Marriage and family life – and replace it with individuals seeking after their own pleasure.
        In the Creator’s plan for our happiness, the finality of our human sexuality is union and fecundity, life and family. These other “interests” want to promote “sex ed” – that is, education to sexual practices that it is claimed “everyone wants” and how to practice them while claiming to provide safety and protection from sexually transmitted infections and diseases.
        However, there is never any question or concern in “sex ed” to protect the person in all that we are and can be. Such “sex ed” ignores and tramples the meaning and beauty of the human body as well as the body’s union to relationship, marriage, children, and family, and the truth that we all want to be loved.
        All the “dirty” content damages the child’s heart by presenting a perversion of human sexuality. The solution is to reach the child’s heart by treating with the truth, love, beauty, and life, which is good news, and “different from what you have seen”, what is presented out there in the world, in culture, and in the various media of mass and social communication.

 

SUMMARY         The pre-adolescent or rather the child in the latency and innocent stage is “beaten up or mugged” by publicity which treats him like an adolescent when he isn’t one yet; ever seeking to stimulate in him or her a desire to be "older" and "adolescent".

 

First we have to present love as beautiful before we can treat what is dirty, false, violent, exploitative, abusive, etc. We only have to look at video clips that turn various scenarios into pornography. Porn is to be avoided by everyone in all of its forms, because this garbage expresses itself in the heart and hardens it. The world of “hot” folks is actually glacial… cold… without real love which builds the other up without exploiting him or her.

7 to 8 years old is the age of reason which introduces a new form of stability for the child who leaves infancy behind.

6 or 7 to 12 is the latency period during which a form of modesty awakens and manifests itself in different ways. From now on the child wants to bathe alone, now having a greater awareness of himself, of his body. 

As a result the young boy displays a kind of repugnance for everything sexual and even for marks of affection for members of the opposite sex.

For her part the young girl may begin to keep an intimate diary which must be protected from her brothers.

In any case parents must gently open their child to others during this period during which both girls and boys are inclined to close in on themselves.

In the west for the past 100 years puberty has been advancing and showing itself younger; without doubt due to pollution and the increased presence of estrogen in the environment due to the pill and other sources which end up in the waters and the soils and, as a result, in the food chain.

 

THE CHILD IN THE LATENCY STAGE

 

Paradox # 1.                       The child is really connected but very alone. He has a great need to be loved. Parents should ask themselves, “Does my child know that I love him?” Even in the culture we see evidence of this unavoidable truth as, for example, in the “Harry Potter” series of novels we see from beginning to end the conviction that “evil can do nothing against the sacrificial love of a mother.

Paradox # 2.                       Our children need to be absolutely loved by their parents, no matter the conditions. In addition there is the even greater good that they are wanted and loved by God. Let’s do what we must so that they can immerse themselves and bathe in the love of God.

Paradox # 3.                       During this latency stage the child puts forward “me by myself” but for all that we continue to deliberately accompany, congratulate, and surround him with our love, perhaps a little more discreetly, but just as truly and personally, despite the new “distance”.

Paradox # 4.                       External autonomy versus interior liberty – The child now becomes more competent in getting around and doing things; but going about taking care of his own needs by himself requires maturity, more than he is likely to have at this age.         His incomplete maturity requires a degree of support that varies from one child to another. Parents need to observe and realize that during this latency stage the child cannot yet be really mature or entirely autonomous, despite his declarations, demands, or protests.
        Here lies the great challenge for the parent who is too busy and tired: to recharge his strength and energy for the good of the child in his suffering, pain, and shadows. The challenge is all the greater for the parent still living with his own sufferings, pain, and shadows; which he must manage privately in order to continue providing the emotional education of the child.
        This emotional education of the child becomes all the more difficult in view of the child’s own interior states. At this level, what the parent is going through can make him more compassionate to the states through which his child is passing, and this same compassion can allow the parent to sufficiently forget himself to attend to his child’s needs.
        In the matter of emotional education in his human nature and sexuality, the child has the right to see, to hear, and to know his parents’ love story, and thus, his origins. It doesn’t matter if one of the parents and spouses is no longer around. The remaining parent must put aside all recrimination he may feel against his ex-spouse; because the child has both the right and the need to know about his origins in the love that his parents had for one another, and hence, for him their child.

 

EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL EDUCATION OF CHILDREN BEFORE ADOLESCENCE

 

The emotional and sexual education of our children needs to happen before they enter into adolescence, and it can begin as soon as they ask questions that remotely or closely touch all that has to do with their origin or sexuality. This education of the child by their parent must always be done with great tenderness and affection; for this is the most faithful expression of the truth about love which gives life not only at the beginning but which continues to give life all during life. Given the human and cultural situation in which we currently live, parents need reference points in order to effectively embark on the emotional and sexual education of their children.

Reference point # 1.                        Human love is lived in the world of human persons. Human beings are not things, not animals, not machines, not toys, but persons. We, human beings, we are a living network of body, soul, spirit, mind, and heart. So we’re not talking about a model of animal instinct as in wild or domesticated beasts. We are not human beasts, but rather human persons. This is why we absolutely reject all forms of pornography, of prostitution, or of perverted sexuality which, in every case, showcases instinctual, impulsive, and therefore, animal behaviors and activities.  

Reference point # 2.                        Your body – is youit is not a thing which belongs to you, but you are your body at the same time that you are also your soul, your spirit, your mind, and your heart, which all together form the person that you are. So what your body lives, you live it too.
        That is why all behaviours which deform the human person and human sexuality by whatever pornographic expression – such as submission to concupiscence or instinctive behaviours such as fellatio and others – are a violence against and a disruption of your dignity.
        Serial or repeated sexual relations harden the heart which becomes incapable of truly loving or being loved; which brings deep suffering of isolation and interior cold.         Having recourse to pornography causes the person with a hard heart no longer to believe in real love or even in life.
        Such a person may either be swallowed up in the impulse to suicide or may seek an escape in the artificial option of “no sex” or refusing to identify with any gender: “I am neither male nor female, neither man nor woman”.

Reference point # 3.                        Faced with all this pollution of ideas, of propaganda, and of interior states, what do we say to our children? “I am made to love… I have a heart.” The parent can and must soak the heart of their child in love and the child will himself or herself recognize “garbage” assertions.
        In the same way that one must wax well with many repetitions a piece of furniture made from high quality wood to protect it from stains; so must parents “wax well” their children’s hearts, spirits, minds, and souls.
        The “layers” of wax are so many intimate moments of complicity with their child as they entertain all sorts of assertions about love – about their parents’ love but also about God’s love – of which he, the child, is the product and of which he continues to be the object, and of which he is also now becoming the subject, capable of loving in his turn in a disinterested fashion with a sacrificial love; ever seeking to serve the good of the other, the beloved.

 

Creative use of language to convey the profound beauty and meaning of our affections and human sexuality

 

The mommy’s tummy, the mommy’s uterus is a sanctuary of life and safe cradle for the baby right next to the mommy’s heart where the baby hears his mommy’s heart beating, and together they make the music of two hearts beating together.

How will the baby come out of mommy’s tummy? The baby will come out by a little path reserved for life and for love, reserved for the baby to live, and also reserved for love and therefore for the daddy.

The vagina of the mommy is made only for life and for love.

The anus is for something else, to let the body get rid of garbage.

The channel for pee is also for getting rid of garbage; even if in daily living it seems to be the same channel for two different things. In reality, it is only a part of it which is shared by two functions, but by only one thing, one function, at a time.

 

How did the baby get into mommy’s tummy?

 

Path of love # 1.            The baby entered into mommy’s tummy by the same special path that the baby will take to come out on his birthday. It is the little path reserved for life and for love, the little path reserved for life, for love, and for the heart.

Path of love # 2.            Daddy and Mommy love each other and tell each other, but it isn’t enough – just like when you are glad to see me and give me a hug – so Daddy and Mommy give each other a special hug.

Path of love # 3.            When the heart of the daddy and the mommy are full of love; then the daddy’s heart is also full of love and he is able to give all his love to the mommy. The Daddy’s rod gently lifts up and is able to enter into the mommy’s path which is reserved for life and for love.

Path of love # 4.            Then there is a crowning of their love… there is great joy in their united hearts and bodies, and it is from this love that the child begins to exist in the mommy’s tummy.

 

ADOLESCENTS

 


The education of our children sits squarely in our right and our duty to think and to speak. Various ideologies try to intimidate us and reduce us to silence, but it is more essentially our right and our duty to speak with precision to our children who, for their part, have both the right and the need to know the whole truth about their life and their origin, their human nature, and their human sexuality. Adolescents now observe the dichotomy among the various voices demanding their attention and allegiance; so we must approach them with a much more precise language.

Approach # 1.                   Confronted by all the voices speaking of human sexuality, with adolescents we need to talk all the more precisely, because they have a greater need to understand more concretely and specifically.

Approach # 2.                   We must also speak to them of the interior battle and of self mastery; that as human persons we have a great capacity for self-control, but we must exercise it, and that our self mastery grows with time and practice (just as sin and irresponsibility also grow stronger), and that the love of God is the source of our interior strength. It is God who loves us first and who draws us to love Him, to love others, and to love ourselves.

Approach # 3.                   It is good and necessary for us to elicit in the child – and eventually the adolescent – admiration for the perfection of love. Loving is like having a good voice. To sing well one must see and know the partition well. The lyrics and notes of the partition are: respect for the other, fidelity to the other, tenderness towards the other, and paying attention to the expectations of the other.

Approach # 4.                   Homophilia – at the beginning of adolescence, in their insecurity, youth find much reassurance in their peers and can feel all kinds of emotions towards their peers - boys for other boys, girls for other girls - but there is nothing sexual about it. However, in our time we bear the burden of a culture which has been manipulated for decades by those with strategic agendas to change society’s attitudes. This culture tries to sexualize the other. Unfortunately, this sexualization of the other makes it very difficult to engage in any ordinary, true, and disinterested friendship without it having any sexual overtones.

Approach # 5.                   One must certainly not listen to voices that advocate “trying everything” in terms of sexual activity, because we have a “body memory” which even after a single act colors everything that follows. That is why outside of the loving relationship of one man and one woman in a committed, permanent, exclusive, and faithful union, such as in marriage, all sexual activity not designed or intended by God our Creator conditions the human heart on a path of egoism and the quest for personal pleasure; which hardens the human heart and makes true love all the more difficult. God made our human sexuality powerful, and only in the committed love of husband and wife can this power be safely harnessed and expressed in authentic love which gives and nurtures life in a genuine friendship devoted to the other.

Approach # 6.                   A youth can become aware of a “dragger” or homosexual predator trying to impose on him or her. This youth must understand – this is absolutely essential – that they may very welll "feel something" because they are alive and God designed us with feelings. So, simply “feeling” something in oneself is not the same as “consenting”. The youth, like any human person, remains ever free to ask himself, “What do I want?” and “Is this good or not?” the “No!” of which I am capable in my conscience protects me in order to one day be able to say a beautiful “Yes!” to the person that I will choose to love and who will love me in return.

Approach # 7.                   The young adolescent woman like the young adult woman can find herself temporarily in the condition of “homo femini” or fear of male sexuality because of its violent portrayal in pornography. She must learn from her parents that it isn’t really like that in a loving relationship between human persons who are mature and responsible in their relations with others.

Parents, enjoy many gratuitous moments sitting down face to face with your child. See the relationship of befriending when the fox meets the little prince. We must approach gently, and that takes time. For boys, it’s better by the father; but if not, the mother must do it. For example, the mother can say to him, “Your father and I want to tell you…”

 

THE SPIRITUAL LIFE OF CHILDREN

 

Original sin consists in man and woman turning away from their relationship with God the Creator to prefer making up their own life, their own reality, their own universe, their own definition of human life and of good and evil. There is nothing more painful in our human condition than this isolation from God, who is not only our origin in life and in love but also our final destiny for eternal life and perfection of love and communion.

That is why it is essential for parents to introduce their child to God. However, we cannot give what we do not already possess. Still, with God, it is never too late. So, the simple realization by parents that there is somewhere within them some sort of desire to give their children what is best can already open within them the gateway to all that is “beyond”. These are the opportunities in real time, in the present moment, to give their children the “sacraments” or knowledge of God, or prayer, or spirituality, or faith. The Holy Spirit is ever present and eager to supply our weakness and guide us.

The heart of the Judeo-Christian Tradition is clearly that the God who is good and loving, the Creator of the Universe, wants to have a relationship of friendship and love with every human person. God, who is infinitely rich, wants to give us everything, but all the obstacles that exist are within us… the “gates” within us are not always open, or else they are not always open wide. God our Creator shows such an extreme respect for our freedom that God seems to us to be absent or silent. This impression is false, because as soon as we open ourselves to God, the Holy Three in One are right here.

BAPTISMAt Baptism God the Holy Trinity engenders within the human person a “family relationship” of adoption introducing the person – even a newborn baby – into the heart of the relationship of communion already existing from all eternity and which “defines” the divine being we call God and whose nature Jesus has revealed as a “communion of divine persons in a single divine being”. The life that exists in God in perfect love and perfect harmony begins to “flow” or “vibrate” in us, and we begin to “live in God”. As for everything else regarding our human life on Earth, this new life “in God” must be cultivated, first by our parents and godparents, but gradually by the free and motivated participation of the child himself or herself. In time, the presence and love of God can be experienced as a “spiritual fire” within.

CONFIRMATIONWhether it is the day after its birth, at 7 / 8 years of age, or at 11 / 12 years old, at the moment of its confirmation or chrismation, the child receives a new “effusion” or “outpouring of the Holy Spirit of God” as the apostles and 100 or so other disciples received while they were gathered around the Mother of Jesus in the Upper Room on the day of Pentecost. The Holy Spirit is ever at work to infuse his gifts: piety for greater respect for the works of God, especially man and woman, girl / boy; and all the other spiritual gifts for the person and the charisms for the good of others and the Church. Parents can / must help their child to see himself or herself as loved by God and that they receive themselves from God in love. Their gender – female or male / woman or man – was given to them at their conception and will ever manifest itself and develop.

HOLY COMMUNIONas the mother gives of her blood / milk in nursing her baby at the maternal breast, so does Jesus – risen from the dead and Son of God – give of himself as spiritual food to communicants, giving us in Holy Communion a veritable “transfusion” of the divine life He possesses with his Father and the Holy Spirit. Our sharing in the divine life of love which is in God and in which we are initiated through Baptism is in a continual process of development and not yet “permanent” on Earth, and it will only be permanent in Heaven when we will have accomplished our life and mission.

ANOINTING OF THE SICKAs He did in Palestine, Jesus continues to heal the sick and wounded while forgiving sins and driving out evil spirits who at various times torment the baptised. Sometimes physically healing and other times not, at all times God manifests his sovereign divine will; our Creator and Redeemer knows what we need most in view of our eternal destiny, and often what God wants to give us may not be what we want or ask. We need to trust in God.

PENANCE – RECONCILIATIONJesus allows us to meet Him face to face as He did when He walked the Earth through the representatives He gives himself and whom He sends us in the persons of his priests (HOLY ORDERS).

MARRIAGETo those who believe in Him and who put their trust in Him Jesus vouches that their love will reflect his faithful and sacrificial love for his Church, his Beloved, the body of all his assembled faithful disciples. When couples – both the man and the woman – practice putting their faith in God and make room for him in their personal lives and also in their couple; then their Marriage becomes truly sacramental. Christ manifests his love for the woman through her husband, and for the man through his wife. In their couple, their love becomes a true reflection of the Holy Trinity.

P.S.: Genesis portrays God’s creation of humans as man and woman in original innocence, with an amazing capacity for authentic friendship and selfless, self-sacrificial love. 

The enemy of humanity seeks to “sexualize” our capacity for friendship in order to reduce us to slavery and deprive us of the liberty of the children of God. Sin divided us into man or woman. 

Patriarchy is domination by man. 

Feminism reduces us to neither man nor woman. Gender ideology seeks to neutralize our innate human gender as woman or man by replacing our identity with the illusion of a “choice”. 

For its part, the “gay” culture and homosexual “lobby” prey on young children before puberty and young adolescents who are likely to be experiencing temporary “Homophilia” as they develop, in a deliberate strategy to impose their ideology on them precisely when they are most vulnerable. 

Their objective is to have the young “fall” and identify themselves as “gay” or “lesbian” and, reducing them to sexual activity, deny and abandon their great dignity as girl or boy, woman or man, in accord with the gender with which they were endowed at their conception. 

The good news is that Jesus Christ our Lord restores lost innocence and our capacity for the reciprocal gift of self for which our gender as man or woman empowers us, God’s gift to enable us to live our human life and love in the image and likeness of God the Holy Trinity.

 

These notes were taken from a conference given March 29th, 2017 at the offices of the Archdiocese of Montreal by Inès Pélissié du Rausas with added thoughts by me. He book containing a much more complete and detailed explanation of her instructions to parents is entitled:

“S’il te plait, parle-moi de l’amour ! »

It is available from Amazon in France at THIS LINK or at Amazon.ca at THIS LINK


"Papa, s'il te plaît, c'est beau, l'amour ? :
que dire à mon fils préadolescent ?"

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Mass instructions & homilies 2016 to 2020

Audio recording 1-hour Intro to Prayer Seminar 2020-21

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In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity, as reported in Jeremiah 31:31-34, every human being can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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© 2006-2021 All rights reserved Fr. Gilles Surprenant, Associate Priest of Madonna House Apostolate & Poustinik, Montreal  QC
© 2006-2021 Tous droits réservés Abbé Gilles Surprenant, Prêtre Associé de Madonna House Apostolate & Poustinik, Montréal QC
 

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Tuesday, November 24, 2020

What is the Family Life Chaplaincy Service?

In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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Family Life Chaplain

What is the Family Life Chaplaincy Service? 


Jesus Christ 
is humanity’s only true wealth… walking with us on our troubled paths… revealing Himself “in the breaking of the bread” (Luke 24)… making us all brothers and sisters… drawing us out from our comfort to those on the peripheries of life… where the “joy of the Gospel” awaits us in life-giving encounters… as Jesus transforms despair into hope in the peace and joy of the Holy Spirit! (Pope Francis)

Your Family Life Chaplain is your Parish Priest sent by Jesus, through the supervisory authority of the Archbishop of Montreal, to bring the presence and divine mercy of God given to us in Jesus to you and your family in your local parish. Your priest is a happy man because he knows he is loved by God in Jesus, and he continues to offer his life to the Lord in order to be there for you at those times when you sense you need guidance, encouragement, the healing and strength God the Father gives us through his only-begotten Son in the mysterious moments of divine grace we call the Sacraments.

Normally, the best way to meet your pastor is to go to the church for Sunday Mass, because there you will have an opportunity to meet him, find out about his availability, meet other Catholic Christians, and discover the various services offered in your parish. However, during the various degrees of confinement due to the worldwide Covid-19 Pandemic, you could start by locating your parish’s contact information, and then make contact with them. If you are not familiar with your local parish, you can find it here

May the peace of the Risen Lord Jesus Christ and his Eternal Father be with you and your family!

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In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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© 2006-2021 All rights reserved Fr. Gilles Surprenant, Associate Priest of Madonna House Apostolate & Poustinik, Montreal  QC
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Tuesday, October 20, 2020

Family Life Chaplain - What does he do? To whom is this service offered?

In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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Portrait of the late Fr. Joseph A.E. Sullivan

What is a Family Life Chaplain? What does he do? To whom is this service offered?

Actually, "Family Life Chaplain" is in fact a "modern" term or title for the parish priest sent by Jesus to each parish through the supervisory authority of the local bishop or archbishop (in the case of an archdiocese). As Jesus received all those who came to Him with any ailment, complaint, need, or request while He walked this Earth in the Holy Land of Palestine / Israel; so now Jesus continues to receive all those who seek Him today all over this Earth through the pastoral presence and kindly services of the local parish priest. Priests don't necessarily have a charism of healer; so we continue to employ health services and all the other social services professionally offered in our day.

The priest continues to be a simple human being like all of us, a sinner; he isn't perfect yet. This means that we need to love him as we are called to love one another in our family and close personal circles; as well as our enemies and all those we don't necessarily like or enjoy.... Those we don't like give us an opportunity to practice perfect, unselfish love; since we don't expect anything good from such people. At such times God blesses us through the love we give rather than receive.

Now that the dangers of sexual predation and abuse, as well as abuse of power, have entered into the public domain and consciousness; it is obvious that at all times we must all remain vigilant to note and identify inappropriate behaviour on the part of anyone, including our priests. This is not because they are more likely to offend, because social studies indicate they aren’t. No, the reason to assure our vigilance is because our trust of clergy may reduce our inclination to be vigilant. So we must all keep our eyes and ears open and our judgement clear and fully operational. That being said, it would be a great loss not to call upon our parish priests for the services the Lord Jesus offers us in them.

When the priest offers the Holy Mass, the Holy Eucharist, it is Jesus Himself who is there, offering Himself anew to his Father for us. The Holy Spirit gathers all our prayers, adoration, supplications, praise, contrition, and thanksgiving – the whole offering of our self and our life since the last time – and places our offering on the altar with the bread and wine. Through the priest, Jesus offers us, our offering, along with himself, to the Father. Then, at Holy Communion, the Father answers our prayers by accepting our offering and in response, He gives us the best that He has to give; which is his only-begotten Son, Jesus, in Holy Communion. Jesus gives us a "transfusion" of the divine life and love He has with the Father and the Holy Spirit in the Most Holy Trinity. With each Holy Communion we become more and more able to live, love, forgive, and serve as children of God, living images of Jesus in our world today; in this way He shines his divine light for the world.

It is the same with all of the sacraments: Baptism, Confirmation, Reconciliation (Penance or Confession), the Anointing of the Sick, and Marriage. We see and hear the parish priest, but always it is Jesus who through the sacrament of Holy Orders receives us, listens to us, speaks to us, prays with us, offers us words of instruction and encouragement, extends his hands over us in blessing, anoints us with holy oil, offers us forgiveness and absolution of our sins, challenges us to make better efforts to approach God, get to know Him and his ways, and give Him a return of love for all of the love He constantly pours into us in the Holy Spirit.... No matter how "disappointing" we may find the "wrapping" – the human limits of the priest – we can be assured that it is Jesus who is there, serving and blessing us. Jesus promised He would be with us all days until the end of time, and He is faithful. Jesus, in union with his Eternal Father and the Holy Spirit, ALWAYS keeps his promises.

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We began to employ the title Family Life Chaplain in 2013.

First, as intended in September 2013 by Auxiliary Bishop Tom Dowd, the FLC had the effect of a “ploughshare” to break open new ground as a form of “spiritual direction” for couples and families to accompany them. This new service also served as a support to parish faith communities and their parish priests, who are sent by the Lord Jesus and appointed by the Archbishop as the immediate, "front line pastors of couples and families" – the regular or "ordinary" Family Life Chaplains.

Second, the Family Life Chaplain served for 7 years as a “lightning rod” for couples and families searching for support in their faith and vocation to marriage and family life: to give them an opportunity to better understand their faith and to enter more deeply into their relationship with God and with other human beings. Faith is God's gift to all who accept it to give them "new eyes, ears, minds, and hearts" to live their life no longer as isolated individuals crushed by heavy burdens, feeling abandoned, unwanted, or unloved. They can live life as children of the one true God and Creator of all who is a triune community of divine persons who truly love them. The Most Holy Trinity offers them all the supernatural gifts they need to endure the troubles of life and to safely navigate through all the obstacles and dangers of life under the lordship of Jesus Christ. When we believe in Jesus as Son of God and our Saviour and Lord, He pours into us the Holy Spirit, Lord and Giver of Life, with his supernatural gifts enabling us to follow Jesus in this life as his disciples.

Third, the Family Life Chaplain acted as “spiritual advisor” with movements that support couples and families and as needed offered them accompaniment, encouragement, and spiritual advice.

Fourth, the Family Life Chaplain served as a member of the Diocesan Center for Marriage, Life, and Family: to collaborate and help to develop within the Diocese its concerted multilingual and multicultural mission to couples, families, and society at large. The DCMLF is networking with other pastoral agents labouring courageously and generously within The Office for English Pastoral Services, Mission Jeunesse, Social Action, Faith Education, and Pastoral Home Care.

Fifth, the Family Life Chaplain served as “spiritual advisor” and member of Montreal's first English language "Team of Our Lady", a worldwide Catholic movement that forms teams of 4 to 6 married couples with their children and one priest. Jesus intends for the complementarity between these two life vocations of Marriage / Matrimony and Holy Orders / Priesthood to provide an ongoing opportunity for mutual help and encouragement in living out their respective vocations. Married couples and priests are both called to holiness as missionary disciples of our Lord Jesus Christ and enthusiastic witnesses to everyone they meet of God’s divine love and mercy in the world.

So, today, you who are engaged or married couples and parents have much to gain by developing your connection with God into a more personal relationship. The Holy Trinity – Father, Son (Jesus), and the Holy Spirit – are always “at work” within us. They ask that we “pay attention” and “be open” to their love, “light”, and “guidance” and allow them to "make themselves at home" within us and in our married couples and families. We have everything to gain and nothing to lose by trusting in God! Don't hesitate to approach your local parish priest to get to know him and allow him to get to know you and your family. If until now you have not been offering God worship and adoration on Sunday, the Lord's Day, now would be a good time to begin. You can find your local parish by going to the Diocese of Montreal's website here. Use this search tool to find your local parish. You may find you live near two or more R.C. parishes, English and French, as well as ethnic churches.

Introduce yourself and your family to your parish priest. Remember, your parish priest is truly your Family Life Chaplain, and in him you will find Jesus present, waiting, and eager to welcome you; however imperfect the priest may be humanly speaking. Who among us is perfect, anyway, right? Make an act of faith and trust in Jesus, and open yourself to the services Jesus offers you through his priests. God bless you and your family!

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"Our Lady of Ville Marie, Our Lady of Guadalupe, Our Lady of Lourdes, Our Lady of Fatima, Our Mother of Perpetual Help, please pray for our married couples, for our families, for our children, parents, and siblings, and lead us into the peaceful, loving, and joyful life you lived with Joseph and Jesus in Nazareth. Amen."

Pope Leo XIII & the Prayer to Saint Michael the Archangel


Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in the day of battle. Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray, and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the power of God cast into hell Satan and all evil spirits who prowl through the world seeking the ruin of souls.  Amen.

Our Lady of Guadalupe - Her Apparitions

Fatima - all about the apparitions in 1917 and later

Fatima - Angel’s Prayer     “O Most Holy Trinity, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, I adore Thee profoundly. I offer Thee the most precious Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity of Jesus Christ present in all the tabernacles of the world, in reparation for the outrages, sacrileges and indifferences by which He is offended. By the infinite merits of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and the Immaculate Heart of Mary I beg the conversion of poor sinners.”

“Most Holy Trinity, I adore Thee! My God, my God, I love Thee in the Most Blessed Sacrament.”

In our lives and relationship with God, Our Lady of Fatima teaches us about the importance of
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Fatima - Pardon Prayer              “My God, I believe, I adore, I hope and I love Thee! I beg pardon for all those that do not believe, do not adore, do not hope and do not love Thee.”

Our Lady of Fatima's plan for peace - Faith, Prayer, Penance, Devotion, and Consecration of Russia, the World, and us.... Our Lady of Fatima’s Plan for Peace requires devotion on our part – See how Saint Pope John Paul II responded to Mary with his collegial consecration of 1984

Fatima - Decade Prayer (at end of each decade of the Rosary)       “O my Jesus, forgive us our sins, save us from the fires of hell, lead all souls to Heaven, especially those most in need of Thy mercy. Amen.”

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