Christian Prayer – How to Pray as a Married Couple, that is, with your spouse

In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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Christian Prayer – How to Pray as a Married Couple, that is, with your spouse

For busy parents – a simple approach to prayer 

Prayer is simply visiting with God – the Creator – who is always present – a Community of Divine Persons: the Father, the Son, Jesus – and the Holy Spirit.

PRELIMINARY NOTES FOR ALL WHO PRAY

1.      BUSY PRAYER IN THE DUTY OF THE MOMENT: We can pray – visit with God – anywhere, anytime, but in the car, driver, attention to the road!

 

2.      PRAYER OF SILENCE: Friends of God find Him in the silence we learn to keep within ourselves, quieting our mind, heart, and spirit, like a baby in the parent’s lap. We can share the silence together.

 

3.      OTHER FORMS OF PRAYER: You can pray TO God with Scripture, with the Mysteries of the Rosary; at Holy Mass; or with the saints.

 

4.      PRAYER TIME & PLACE: Choose a time and place to visit together with God by setting aside any other activity.

 

5.      IT IS THE HOLY SPIRIT WHO REALLY DOES THE PRAYING WITHIN US: Let the Holy Spirit carry you in the praying, and to help you pay attention to each other and listen with care to each other.

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ACTUALLY PRAYING

1.      “BE NOT AFRAID!” Remember: God will always remain mysterious to us, but what’s life without mystery?

 

2.      DECIDE: Simply decide to take some time to visit with God together.

 

3.      ASK: Ask the Holy Spirit to be with you both and help you to pray together, to visit together with the Holy Trinity.

 

4.      ENTER INTO YOUR PRAYER METHOD: In “silent prayer” OR with a Scripture text OR with the Mysteries of Jesus in the Rosary OR…

 

5.      “WORRY NOT – ENJOY!” Enjoy the presence and the love of God the Father, his Son Jesus, and the Holy Spirit in the presence of your spouse.

 

6.      AT THE END GIVE THANKS: Say together or one of you for both: “Thank You, Lord… or Father… or Jesus… or Holy Spirit.”

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Especially for busy parents with young children – simplifying our approach to prayer

Prayer is visiting with God – the Creator of the Universe – who is always present. Jesus revealed God to be a Divine Being that is a Trinity, a Community of Divine Persons: the Father, the Son – who became human through Mary and is named Jesus – and the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit guides us interiorly in our own spirit.

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PRELIMINARY NOTES FOR ALL WHO PRAY

1.      BUSY PRAYER IN THE DUTY OF THE MOMENT: Our life is complex in many dimensions. We can pray – visit with God – anywhere, anytime: in bed, in the shower, as we prepare food, before / after a meal, commuting to and from work, pausing a moment during work, at play…. CAUTION: Pay attention in the “front” of your mind to what you are doing to avoid injury… let prayer “happen” on the “back burner”….

2.      PRAYER OF SILENCE: Friends of God find Him in silence, not the absence of noise, but in the silence we learn to keep within ourselves, quieting our mind, heart, and spirit, like a baby in the parent’s lap. You can brush away interior “noises” by noticing them and immediately letting them go with your “out” breath. Try to sync your breath in / out with a holy word: “Lord Jesus, I trust in you.” OR simply “Jesus Christ.”

3.      OTHER FORMS OF PRAYER: You can pray with Scripture, the Word of God in the Bible; or with the Mysteries of the Rosary; or at Holy Mass; or TO God WITH the saints to help you pray; or written prayers.

4.      PRAYER TIME & PLACE: Choose a time and place to visit with God by setting aside any other activity.

5.      IT IS THE HOLY SPIRIT WHO REALLY DOES THE PRAYING WITHIN US: Let the Holy Spirit carry you in the praying, especially when you are doing something else. At all times it is really the Holy Spirit who prays in us, and if we want, the Holy Spirit can give us the grace to relax; so we don’t need to “strain the brain” at all, and the Holy Spirit teaches us how to allow the prayer to “echo” within our spirit.

 

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ACTUALLY PRAYING TOGETHER

6.      “BE NOT AFRAID!” Remember: God, revealed to us by Jesus of Nazareth, is a “Divine Being” in whom is a “community” of Divine Persons: the Father, his Son Jesus, and the Holy Spirit; yet God is a single Divine Being. God will always remain mysterious to us, but what’s life without mystery?

7.      DECIDE: Simply decide together to pray with each other, and in this way visit together with God.

8.      ASK: Ask the Holy Spirit to be with you and help you to pray, to visit with the Holy Trinity.

9.      ENTER INTO YOUR PRAYER METHOD: In “silent prayer” together using a “holy word”, learn to “breathe” the word in and out, letting your breath and word “sync” to relax and rest in the Lord.
OR Select a Scripture text and read slowly, “ponder” the words, let them touch your mind, heart, spirit.
OR Pray the Rosary with Mary while meditating on the Mysteries of Jesus in the Holy Rosary. OR…

10.  “WORRY NOT – ENJOY”: You can almost hear Yoda say this to you. Just let whatever comes into your mind or heart – worries, ideas, emotions, resolutions, anxieties, lists or whatever – as you notice it wanting to occupy you, just let it drop, fall away… you will be able to find it or pick it up again later. Enjoy the presence and the love of God the Father, his Son Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.

11.  AT THE END GIVE THANKS: Say “Thank You, Lord… or Father… or Jesus… or Holy Spirit.”

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PRAYING WITH HOLY SCRIPTURE – THE WORD OF GOD – AS A COUPLE

God is the source of vitality and love for Marriage and Family life.  Prayer is entertaining God’s presence in order to let Him connect us to his divine vitality. Here is how you can pray together as a Couple.

Step 1.  Pick a form of prayer activity, such as praying with Scripture, and select a passage.

Step 2.  Someone pray out loud, in a way something like this, in order to ask God’s guidance: “Dear God, here we are in your presence. Please guide and inspire us, in Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

Step 3.  Follow this simple process, which will give each person the opportunity to hear the other person sharing their thoughts and in this way reveal how they need to be prayed for.

1.      One person read the Scripture passage out loud, slowly, and clearly. 

2.      Both remain quiet for a good 2 to 3 minutes, to allow the Word of God time to bounce around inside you and stir up impressions that come from your daily life, thoughts, and feelings.

3.      The other person reads the same passage over again out loud, slowly, and clearly.

4.      Both listen again in silence to what’s bouncing around inside as the Word of God continues to connect with thoughts, impressions, and feelings that come from your daily life and deep within you.

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Step 4.  Now you take turns putting into words, for each other’s sake, what effect the Word of God had on you.

1.      Now one of you can start and give the other a glimpse of what the reading from Scripture stirred up inside – your thoughts, impressions, feelings, and maybe experience of your day. The other listens.

2.      The second person prays a simple prayer out loud repeating some of the words the first used to say what in them is being touched by the Word of God.                E.g.: She said, “As I listened, I remembered the fight I had with my boss, and I feel bad about it, and worried.” So, he says, “Father in Heaven, You heard her say what happened, and now she feels bad and worried. Please give her peace and help her find a way to resolve this problem, in Jesus’ Name. Amen!”     

3.      Your prayer for the other can be simple or detailed, as you are comfortable and have the time to do, but use the other’s own words. This whole exercise is done in freedom, trust, faith, and generosity.

Step 5.  Now it’s the other’s turn to put into words, for each other’s sake, how the Word of God touched you.

1.      Now the second gives the first a glimpse of what the reading from Scripture stirred up inside – your thoughts, impressions, feelings, and maybe experience of your day. The one who was first listens.

2.      The one who was first prays a simple prayer out loud repeating some of the words the second used to describe what in them is being touched by the Word of God.                 E.g.: He said, “As I listened, I recalled I didn’t handle our child’s discipline very well, and I don’t know what to do.” So, she says, “Father in Heaven, You heard him say what happened, and now doesn’t know what to do. Please give him peace and help him find a way to correct this problem, in Jesus’ Name. Amen!”    

3.      Your prayer for the other can be simple or detailed, as you are comfortable and have the time to do, but use the other’s own words. This whole exercise is done in freedom, trust, faith, and generosity.

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Step 6.  You look at each other and notice how you now feel, having prayed for one another. (Kleenex time?)

1.      You may not need to talk, but may see in each other’s eyes that this has been a significant time of prayer – a time of intimacy with God, but also a time of intimacy with each other – you have trusted each other with simple, daily, secrets of the heart. You are revealing yourself to each other in love.

2.      We tend to feel tremendously loved when someone listens to our heart, because this is who we are.

Step 7.  Wrap-up and closing

1.      Now, hold hands, sitting as you are, or standing up, or even kneeling together. 

2.      Wrap up with prayer out loud in your own words, to simply express to God your gratitude for his abiding presence, care, and love. 

3.      You can also end with an Our Father, a Hail Mary, and a Glory be to the Father.

4.      Feel free to hug, kiss, stand up, genuflect, prostrate yourself, bow before an icon, make the Sign of the Cross, or make a reverent genuflection before the Blessed Sacrament if in a chapel. Prayer may be without words and is as lively and connected as we are. Praying together is a marvellous way for husband and wife to prepare for sexual intimacy, the “holy blessing” of Matrimony, especially when unhurriedly he joins gently with his wife, entirely focused on her pleasure rather than his own.

Remember that prayer is a normal human activity. You will become more at ease with it the more you do it. On the other hand, because you are not alone in it, but God is there with you, prayer is not only a human activity, but also divine, like a dance. So it doesn’t make sense to try to evaluate our prayer experiences using human parameters or measuring sticks. In fact, it is better not to evaluate our prayer at all, but rather to pay attention to the fidelity and generosity with which we spend or “waste” time “visiting” with God every day. With time you will discover which forms of prayer are most loving for each other and most helpful in your couple intimacy. The ultimate rule of thumb is the rule of love that expresses itself and gives itself in freedom and generosity.

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PRAYING WITH HOLY SCRIPTURE – THE WORD OF GOD – AS A COUPLE

The above method of praying as a couple with Sacred Scripture can be easily enough adapted to other forms of prayer, such as meditating on Mysteries of the Holy Rosary of the Blessed Virgin Mary, reading spiritual works by one of the saints, reading inspiring passages from the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sermons from the saints or pastoral and spiritual letters written by various Popes, and so on. There is no talking when you pray in silence together, but at the end of the silence you can share with each other any “word” you felt arise within you perhaps as a “personal hint” from God. By sharing such “words” with the other, you can better discern together whether this word is really from God or simply a distraction, or perhaps even a temptation from the “evil one”, the “adversary of humanity”, the evil angel who accuses us before God and tries to lead us astray here on Earth.

Whenever you pray together as a couple, the abiding values are:

First - in your praying together to God at the beginning and at the end; 

Second - in your “interior converse” with God;

Third - in your sharing with each other;

Fourth - in your listening to each other;

Fifth - in your praying out loud for each other;

Sixth - in the mutual trust you show to each other by the simple act of praying together; and

Seventh - in actually opening your heart, mind, soul, and body (sharing at times even any physical sensations you may have experienced during prayer) to each other.

God is always at work within us, but through the incredible trust we show God and each other in praying as a couple; we give God permission to accomplish wonderful things in us individually and in our couple.

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In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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Praying - What is that? 👉 An analogy for praying... communicating with God the Creator of the Universe

👉In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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Praying – What is that?

 For someone who has never really prayed before – a simple approach to prayer

 Prayer is simply visiting with God – the Creator of the Universe – who is always present. Christians believe that Jesus revealed God to be a Trinity, a Community of Divine Persons: the Father, the Son – who is also the human known as Jesus – and the Holy Spirit. Here are some simple helps for visiting with God in prayer.

Okay, fine, but what the heck is prayer anyway?

Taking our cue from the Star Trek universe…

Do you feel or think prayer is something saints and mystics do but we ordinary mortals could never hope to do or experience? For people like us, isn’t prayer just turning to God in our times of need? Asking for what we or our loved ones need has always been a normal function of praying, but there is more to it than that. In the fictional Star Trek universe, the first goal of exploring space is to discover new life forms and make first contact with them in the hope of establishing ongoing relations between them and the people of Earth and the members of the United Federation of Planets. So how do they make such contact? The Starship Captain’s usual command generally goes like this: “Open all hailing frequencies.” After this the first message basically introduces them, declares peaceful intentions, and asks for a response. Prayer really is as simple as that, at least to begin with.

“Open all hailing frequencies.”

How do we “open all hailing frequencies” to God? We’re not using sophisticated tech and equipment in the exercise of prayer, but we are making us of all our human faculties: physical senses, our intellectual and psychological faculties, the faculties of our heart, and of our spirit or soul. God connects with us on the inside.

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Praying is Simply visiting with God

Every living, breathing human being has expectations, and these expectations change with incidents we experience in time. What do we expect of life, of others, of ourselves, and of God? What are God’s expectations of us? What kind of blessing do you as a married couple expect from God in your marriage? There is no escape from human suffering and death, but you might expect God to minimize your pain and delay your death to an advanced age. You may be afraid of marital difficulties and expect God to save you from friction and marriage failure. You may fear giving birth to less than perfect children and expect God to prevent deformities and other tragedies from happening. The expectations you might have of God could be as extensive as your fears about life. It is quite human to have fears, but a life primarily driven by fears would be a wretched existence. Love is a much more reliable engine for our lives, health, marriage, family, career, friendships, projects, and leisure.

Most would expect engaged and married couples to have within them deep desires that are real – for all that is true, right, good, loving, and beautiful. Taken together, these desires look like the desire for happiness, and constitute a great motor driving our decisions and choices. It is considered wise – the Bible often speaks of this – to seek the counsel and experience of our elders. Yet, we who are alive at present and belong to the 21^st century culture are so wary of being told how to live our lives, that we are loath to seek advice. We value our own competence and independence, which can hinder us from being really open to benefit from the experience of others in order to make better decisions; so bent are we on making those decisions by ourselves, alone.           

As we attach ourselves to our own motives at this level; we see that God has expectations of engaged and married couples, and of families, as of all his children. The first human beings knew what God expected of them, and they were happy to carry it out. Then they were tempted to doubt the generosity of God’s motives in the few restrictions He had put on their choices. They decided to be free from God’s expectations, and ventured into behavior they had been warned to avoid. Since they had taken back the trust they had until then put in God, the result was the loss of the harmony and peace they had enjoyed with God, with each other, and with all other creatures. To this day we are no longer in harmony with God, with each other, or with Creation. We rely far too much on our own opinions and preferences, going so far as to avoid following or even asking for advice; even when this results in pain, suffering, and death. This is why humanity and the natural environment are in trouble.

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Where Paleontology, Archaeology, Anthropology, & the Sacred Scriptures Meet

We don’t know when the first generations of human beings lived, symbolized as they are in Adam and Eve of Genesis in the Bible. Were they at the beginning of the genus “Homo” in Africa 2.5 million years ago, or 500,000 years ago when Neanderthals in Europe and the Middle East evolved bigger brains than ours today, or when the first homo sapiens developed bigger brains 300,000 years ago with the daily use of fire, or with the evolution of “Homo sapiens sapiens” 200,000 years ago in East Africa, or with the “Cognitive Revolution” 70,000 years ago and the emergence of fictive language, the ability to conceive and express abstract realities, or most recently with the agricultural revolution 14,000 years ago? We don’t know. What God reveals in Genesis, in the beginning, whenever that was, is that man left God to prefer our current state of rebellion and ignorance.

In time, God chose a people for himself, with a merciful plan to restore them to harmony by giving them what the first human beings had as a natural conscience before they turned away from trust in their Creator God. With Moses God gave 10 commandments and said: “Choose life or death: keep the Lord’s commandments and you shall live; break these commandments, and you shall surely die. Consider well, and choose between life and death.” It was a struggle for people to observe the Law and all that God expected of them. They felt faith in God was a burden and didn’t always feel close to God. Then, “God so loved the world that He sent his only Son.”

Jesus came to restore us to harmony with God his Father, with each other, and with all other creatures. He did not come only for the people alive on Earth when He came as man, because He continues to come to each person in every generation until the end of the world. Jesus uses various means to get our attention and then offers us life; that we might be able to live a life like his own. As we respond to Jesus and open ourselves with trust to Him, He lets us know what God expects of us, and we allow Him to have influence in our lives.      

According to John 17:3, Jesus said that eternal life is to know God and Jesus Christ whom He has sent. Jesus lived the most human life ever lived, in perfect harmony in himself, with other people, and all creatures. He lived in a way that was in divine communion with his heavenly Father. He clearly intends for us and all his disciples to learn from Him. Jesus continues to send his Holy Spirit in us to guide us into living our life as He lived his. Jesus went to Synagogue every Friday and every Saturday rested with his family before God, to study the Scriptures and discuss life. He prayed 7 times a day: on waking, before every meal, at the beginning and end of his work, and before going to bed. He lived in the peace, trust, and joy that come from knowing his Father’s love. He worked, made his contribution to society, and earned food for the family. He faced the world with courage, resisting its efforts to pull Him away from doing the Father’s will. He lived on good terms with all, was kind to the poor and suffering, and forgave all who offended Him; even with love and mercy to enemies.

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Jesus gives us the Holy Spirit to help us pray and live as He did. We turn to God in prayer as we get ready for sleep and upon waking in the morning. We go to Sunday Mass and worship the Lord, resting all day with our family and friends, spending time with our spouse and playing with our children, reading, discussing, and learning more about God, and enjoying the Lord’s Day. Like Jesus we pray often during the day – bringing God into the different experiences and concerns of our day – praying alone, as a couple, and also as a family.

We live in the peace, trust, and joy that flow from our Father’s love. We work all week to make our contribution to society and support our family, face the world with courage, resist its efforts to pull us away from our family or from doing the Father’s will. We live on good terms with all, show kindness to the poor and suffering, forgive all who offend us, and give love and mercy even to those who make themselves our enemies.

Jesus did not take his standards for living from the world, but from his Father’s will, which He knew from Scripture, the Synagogue, the teaching of his parents and rabbis, and from personal prayer and converse with his Father. As his disciples, we cannot afford to take our standards for the conduct of our lives from the world, but from Jesus. Jesus sets our standards – as the Person against whom we do well to measure ourselves – for one day we will want to be able to show the Father all the fruit we have generated from all his gifts to us.    

Jesus lived his life as a vibrant, intimate, constant relationship with his Father in heaven, and He calls us to do the same. Jesus’ faith, hope, and love of his Father were out in the light of day for all to see, though He kept much of it concealed in his heart. Still, his faith in God was not occult but public. Our faith in God must likewise be open and public – not occult or hidden. When a person considers himself a Christian, yet does not participate in Sunday worship every week, does not pray alone every day, does not pray openly – at home and in public places like work, church, and society – then that person’s faith is occult or hidden and rather sterile; that limits what God can give and do for them. They push God into the shadows, the corners of their lives.

That leaves the wide-open spaces of their home and lives empty, attracting all kinds of other influences to come and set up shop. They are more easily manipulated and controlled by other people whose motives and intentions can be quite dark. This in turn can open them up to harassment by dark powers and the influence of demons – all the manifestations of evil that we associate with the “occult”. God abides by the laws He has put in place to govern our lives, including the law of freedom. This means that if we want God to actually be God in our lives; it is up to us to take Him seriously, to put our trust in Him, surrender our lives and homes to Him, pray, and openly practice our faith. These attitudes bear fruit every day as we deliberately practice them.

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Living as a Christian, as a disciple of Jesus, includes praying individually and even openly with others. To get over the initial embarrassment and hesitations that can keep you from even trying to pray by yourself or with others, just ask God to help you and start; just do it. Keep in mind that God is alive and was the first One ever to love you. The Father loved you even before you were conceived, when you were only one possibility out of hundreds of thousands in your mother’s ovaries and your father’s testes. He picked you because He wanted you to have life and come into the world; so you might know Him and his never-ending love for you. As you begin to pray, and return to prayer each day – alone and with others – remember that you are responding to God’s invitation. He is always there first, waiting for us to reveal a little more of Himself and his love for us.

A brief reflection on God and the Holy Trinity

Our Christian faith informs and confirms our own human experience that there is only one true God. At all times as we turn to God and pray to Him we deepen this experience of the oneness and uniqueness of God. In addition, what Jesus revealed about God also progressively enters into our own personal experience. While God is a single divine being, there is so much life in God that there are actually three divine Persons: God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Even more mysteriously, the second Person, the Son, took to Himself a human life conceived by the Holy Spirit in the womb of Mary at the very moment she gave her consent to the will of God as expressed to her by the Archangel Gabriel. “Let it be done to me… as you say.”

In his humanity, Jesus of Nazareth revealed to humanity for all time through his Jewish contemporaries that this one true God is composed of three divine Persons, and that He is Himself the Son of the Father, and that He alone knows the Father and makes Him known to all who come to Him and believe in Him. Towards the end of his earthly life and ministry, Jesus told his Apostles of another, the Advocate, the Consoler, the Holy Spirit, who would continue to teach them after his departure, reminding them of all that He had taught them.

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In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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Family Life Chaplain - What does he do? To whom is this service offered?

In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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Portrait of the late Fr. Joseph A.E. Sullivan

What is a Family Life Chaplain? What does he do? To whom is this service offered?

Actually, "Family Life Chaplain" is in fact a "modern" term or title for the parish priest sent by Jesus to each parish through the supervisory authority of the local bishop or archbishop (in the case of an archdiocese). As Jesus received all those who came to Him with any ailment, complaint, need, or request while He walked this Earth in the Holy Land of Palestine / Israel; so now Jesus continues to receive all those who seek Him today all over this Earth through the pastoral presence and kindly services of the local parish priest. Priests don't necessarily have a charism of healer; so we continue to employ health services and all the other social services professionally offered in our day.

The priest continues to be a simple human being like all of us, a sinner; he isn't perfect yet. This means that we need to love him as we are called to love one another in our family and close personal circles; as well as our enemies and all those we don't necessarily like or enjoy.... Those we don't like give us an opportunity to practice perfect, unselfish love; since we don't expect anything good from such people. At such times God blesses us through the love we give rather than receive.

Now that the dangers of sexual predation and abuse, as well as abuse of power, have entered into the public domain and consciousness; it is obvious that at all times we must all remain vigilant to note and identify inappropriate behaviour on the part of anyone, including our priests. This is not because they are more likely to offend, because social studies indicate they aren’t. No, the reason to assure our vigilance is because our trust of clergy may reduce our inclination to be vigilant. So we must all keep our eyes and ears open and our judgement clear and fully operational. That being said, it would be a great loss not to call upon our parish priests for the services the Lord Jesus offers us in them.

When the priest offers the Holy Mass, the Holy Eucharist, it is Jesus Himself who is there, offering Himself anew to his Father for us. The Holy Spirit gathers all our prayers, adoration, supplications, praise, contrition, and thanksgiving – the whole offering of our self and our life since the last time – and places our offering on the altar with the bread and wine. Through the priest, Jesus offers us, our offering, along with himself, to the Father. Then, at Holy Communion, the Father answers our prayers by accepting our offering and in response, He gives us the best that He has to give; which is his only-begotten Son, Jesus, in Holy Communion. Jesus gives us a "transfusion" of the divine life and love He has with the Father and the Holy Spirit in the Most Holy Trinity. With each Holy Communion we become more and more able to live, love, forgive, and serve as children of God, living images of Jesus in our world today; in this way He shines his divine light for the world.

It is the same with all of the sacraments: Baptism, Confirmation, Reconciliation (Penance or Confession), the Anointing of the Sick, and Marriage. We see and hear the parish priest, but always it is Jesus who through the sacrament of Holy Orders receives us, listens to us, speaks to us, prays with us, offers us words of instruction and encouragement, extends his hands over us in blessing, anoints us with holy oil, offers us forgiveness and absolution of our sins, challenges us to make better efforts to approach God, get to know Him and his ways, and give Him a return of love for all of the love He constantly pours into us in the Holy Spirit.... No matter how "disappointing" we may find the "wrapping" – the human limits of the priest – we can be assured that it is Jesus who is there, serving and blessing us. Jesus promised He would be with us all days until the end of time, and He is faithful. Jesus, in union with his Eternal Father and the Holy Spirit, ALWAYS keeps his promises.

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We began to employ the title Family Life Chaplain in 2013.

First, as intended in September 2013 by Auxiliary Bishop Tom Dowd, the FLC had the effect of a “ploughshare” to break open new ground as a form of “spiritual direction” for couples and families to accompany them. This new service also served as a support to parish faith communities and their parish priests, who are sent by the Lord Jesus and appointed by the Archbishop as the immediate, "front line pastors of couples and families" – the regular or "ordinary" Family Life Chaplains.

Second, the Family Life Chaplain served for 7 years as a “lightning rod” for couples and families searching for support in their faith and vocation to marriage and family life: to give them an opportunity to better understand their faith and to enter more deeply into their relationship with God and with other human beings. Faith is God's gift to all who accept it to give them "new eyes, ears, minds, and hearts" to live their life no longer as isolated individuals crushed by heavy burdens, feeling abandoned, unwanted, or unloved. They can live life as children of the one true God and Creator of all who is a triune community of divine persons who truly love them. The Most Holy Trinity offers them all the supernatural gifts they need to endure the troubles of life and to safely navigate through all the obstacles and dangers of life under the lordship of Jesus Christ. When we believe in Jesus as Son of God and our Saviour and Lord, He pours into us the Holy Spirit, Lord and Giver of Life, with his supernatural gifts enabling us to follow Jesus in this life as his disciples.

Third, the Family Life Chaplain acted as “spiritual advisor” with movements that support couples and families and as needed offered them accompaniment, encouragement, and spiritual advice.

Fourth, the Family Life Chaplain served as a member of the Diocesan Center for Marriage, Life, and Family: to collaborate and help to develop within the Diocese its concerted multilingual and multicultural mission to couples, families, and society at large. The DCMLF is networking with other pastoral agents labouring courageously and generously within The Office for English Pastoral Services, Mission Jeunesse, Social Action, Faith Education, and Pastoral Home Care.

Fifth, the Family Life Chaplain served as “spiritual advisor” and member of Montreal's first English language "Team of Our Lady", a worldwide Catholic movement that forms teams of 4 to 6 married couples with their children and one priest. Jesus intends for the complementarity between these two life vocations of Marriage / Matrimony and Holy Orders / Priesthood to provide an ongoing opportunity for mutual help and encouragement in living out their respective vocations. Married couples and priests are both called to holiness as missionary disciples of our Lord Jesus Christ and enthusiastic witnesses to everyone they meet of God’s divine love and mercy in the world.

So, today, you who are engaged or married couples and parents have much to gain by developing your connection with God into a more personal relationship. The Holy Trinity – Father, Son (Jesus), and the Holy Spirit – are always “at work” within us. They ask that we “pay attention” and “be open” to their love, “light”, and “guidance” and allow them to "make themselves at home" within us and in our married couples and families. We have everything to gain and nothing to lose by trusting in God! Don't hesitate to approach your local parish priest to get to know him and allow him to get to know you and your family. If until now you have not been offering God worship and adoration on Sunday, the Lord's Day, now would be a good time to begin. You can find your local parish by going to the Diocese of Montreal's website here. Use this search tool to find your local parish. You may find you live near two or more R.C. parishes, English and French, as well as ethnic churches.

Introduce yourself and your family to your parish priest. Remember, your parish priest is truly your Family Life Chaplain, and in him you will find Jesus present, waiting, and eager to welcome you; however imperfect the priest may be humanly speaking. Who among us is perfect, anyway, right? Make an act of faith and trust in Jesus, and open yourself to the services Jesus offers you through his priests. God bless you and your family!

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"Our Lady of Ville Marie, Our Lady of Guadalupe, Our Lady of Lourdes, Our Lady of Fatima, Our Mother of Perpetual Help, please pray for our married couples, for our families, for our children, parents, and siblings, and lead us into the peaceful, loving, and joyful life you lived with Joseph and Jesus in Nazareth. Amen."

Pope Leo XIII & the Prayer to Saint Michael the Archangel

Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in the day of battle. Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him, we humbly pray, and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the power of God cast into hell Satan and all evil spirits who prowl through the world seeking the ruin of souls.  Amen.

Our Lady of Guadalupe - Her Apparitions

Fatima - all about the apparitions in 1917 and later

Fatima - Angel’s Prayer     “O Most Holy Trinity, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, I adore Thee profoundly. I offer Thee the most precious Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity of Jesus Christ present in all the tabernacles of the world, in reparation for the outrages, sacrileges and indifferences by which He is offended. By the infinite merits of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and the Immaculate Heart of Mary I beg the conversion of poor sinners.”

“Most Holy Trinity, I adore Thee! My God, my God, I love Thee in the Most Blessed Sacrament.”

In our lives and relationship with God, Our Lady of Fatima teaches us about the importance of silence + + + and also about penance & Penance

Fatima - Pardon Prayer              “My God, I believe, I adore, I hope and I love Thee! I beg pardon for all those that do not believe, do not adore, do not hope and do not love Thee.”

Our Lady of Fatima's plan for peace - Faith, Prayer, Penance, Devotion, and Consecration of Russia, the World, and us.... Our Lady of Fatima’s Plan for Peace requires devotion on our part – See how Saint Pope John Paul II responded to Mary with his collegial consecration of 1984

Fatima - Decade Prayer (at end of each decade of the Rosary)       “O my Jesus, forgive us our sins, save us from the fires of hell, lead all souls to Heaven, especially those most in need of Thy mercy. Amen.”

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In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity (Jeremiah 31:31-34) every person can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.

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