In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity, as reported in Jeremiah 31:31-34, every human being can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.
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Developing an Attitude of Service
Before marriage, I dreamed about how
happy I would be when we got married. I had visions of all the wonderful
things my wife would do for me. Sausage and eggs together in the
mornings. Candlelight dinners at night. Holding hands all day long
and sex every night. I assumed that she had the same visions. But, after marriage I found out that my wife didn't do mornings. So much
for the sausage and eggs. She anticipated that I would take her out to
romantic restaurants for dinner, not as a prelude to sex, but simply because I
loved her.
I expressed my disappointment with her and she expressed her disappointment
with me. We succeeded in being utterly miserable. Our marriage
didn't turn around overnight, but it did turn around. And so can
yours. I want to share the secret. It all has to do with
attitude.
Jesus' life and teachings focused on sacrificial service to others. He
once said, "I did not come to be ministered to, but to
minister." It is a theme that all truly great men and women of the
past have affirmed. Life's greatest meaning is not found in getting, but
in giving. This profound principle made a significant difference in my
marriage.
Developing an attitude of service is not easy but the rewards
are overwhelmingly positive. Few people will run away from someone who is
serving them. My wife was no exception. When I reached out to serve her, it wasn't long
before she was reaching out to me. Jesus had it right! Why did it
take me so long to learn?
How would a wife respond to a husband who sincerely sought to serve her?
In my desperation I was determined to find out. I set myself to
discovering her needs and desires and sought to fulfill them. I began
quietly and slowly to do some of the things she had requested in the
past.
You see, by now we were too estranged to talk about our
relationship, but I could choose to take action on some of her previous
complaints. I started washing dishes without being asked. I volunteered to fold the
clothes. It seemed to me these were the kind of things Jesus might have
done had He been married.
When she made specific requests, I determined
to respond cheerfully and if possible to do them.
In less than three months, my wife's attitude toward me began to change.
She came out of her shell of withdrawal and began to talk again. I think
she sensed that my days of preaching were over and that my attitude toward her
was changing. Genuine acts of service seldom go unrewarded. Before long,
our hostility was gone, and we began to have positive feelings toward each
other.
You see, if I believe that it is more blessed to give than to receive; that
serving my spouse is more important than being served; that my best end is
found in making her life better, then it will affect the way I treat her.
When she sees this attitude expressed in my behaviour she knows that something
has changed. If I am consistent, then service becomes a
lifestyle.
Most wives and husbands are attracted to someone who shows genuine concern for
them. The person who follows the example of Jesus – in serving others – is
on the road to greatness and to a growing marriage relationship.
Adapted from The Family You've Always Wanted: Five Ways You Can Make It Happen by Dr. Gary
Chapman. To find out more about Dr. Chapman's resources, visit https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
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In the "New Covenant" made by our Creator God with humanity, as reported in Jeremiah 31:31-34, every human being can know God from within - because the Holy Spirit is revealing our Creator to all who are willing to know the Lord and trust in Him. We can still help each other along the way; so may you be pleased to find here a variety of helps to the life of faith in God through Jesus Christ. G.S.
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